Let me put it this way: If you had strong self-esteem and confidence in yourself, you would not be chosen by a narcissist as a possible partner. This is because narcissists like to control and feel superior. When you doubt yourself and lack confidence, you become the perfect target for a narcissist. Narcissists are appealing at first. They give the impression of strength and confidence. Their goal is to charm you and make you think it is all about you. If you weren't blinded by the attention and weren't questioning your own self-worth, you would realize a lot sooner that your date is interested in you only because you appear weak and less worthy.
- only give you a compliment when he wants something. He has a plan.
- Common conversational topics for narcissists include accomplishments and achievements (the trophy complex), exciting and envy-worthy activities, excessive focus on personal issues and concerns, excessive focus on looks and materialism, and putting others down to show one’s own superiority. Talks about his looks and focused on superfiscal things in a woman.
These are some of the traits of a narcissist or someone with narcissistic tendencies. Only a psychiatrist can diagnose a narcissistic personality disorder, though the broad definition of a narcissist is someone who:
3. Charming and romantic but with a catch.. I dated a guy that was charming and wanted me to help with his business. He had an agenda.While there’s absolutely nothing wrong inherently with being charming, romantic, and a good lover, the narcissist crafts these traits in order to use others. He or she is not really interested in you, but only what he wants to extract from you (often to fulfill an inner emptiness due to the inability to create true intimacy).
4. Instant gratification- Some narcissists, being highly self-centered and self-absorbed, expect instant gratification to fulfill their needs. This may range from goading you to answer their texts or calls immediately, to pressuring you to do things their way (socially, interpersonally, and/or sexually)
5. Manipulation- Some narcissists will use his or her romantic partner to meet unreasonable self- serving needs, fulfill unrealized ambitions, or cover up self-perceived inadequacies and flaws.
6. Constantly put down others -However, even during this stage, pay attention to your date’s seemingly minor, passive-aggressive jokes and comments about your background, body features, choice of attire, use of time, as well as personal and work priorities. Consider whether these remarks are reasonable, or reflect your date’s selfish desire for you to “change for the better”.
7. Expects constant attention and admiration from others.
8. Preoccupied with thoughts and fantasies of success. Has many ideas to become an entrepreneur. He has visions but doesn't follow through.
9. Lacks the ability to empathize with the feelings of others.
10. Reacts Negatively When You Don’t Give Them What They Want-Since many narcissists can't stand disappointment or rejection, they will frequently react negatively when you don’t give them what they want, in the way they want it