Whoever hasn't read the book or saw the movie, I will briefly note that the plot tells the story of literature student Anastasia Steele (played by Dakota Johnson), who falls into the net of Christian Grey (Jamie Dornan), a tormented billionaire whose relations with women are of the sadomasochistic variety. Anastasia, known as Ana, is hesitant to give in to Christian’s sexual conditions – which even include signing a contract stating what she will consent to do. But Christian is so incredibly charming, and the lifestyle he offers so lavish, and Ana – who is still a virgin – may be attracted in some way to the sexual adventures he presents. So she agrees, perhaps also with the thought that she may also be able to free him from the perversions that shape his sexual and emotional world.
Although many fans of Fifty Shades of Grey would beg to differ, a study released today says that the main characters, Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele, are not just in a relationship involving bondage, dominance, and sadomasochism (BDSM), their connection could also be characterized as intimate partner violence (IPV).
Millions of women around the planet believe Christian Grey is a heartthrob, but researchers from Ohio State University, Columbus, aimed to prove he is guilty of behaviors consistent with classic emotional, physical, and sexual abusers: intimidation, threats, isolation, stalking, and humiliation, as well as forced sex acts, contact against another person’s will, and sexual intimidation and pressure.
Can a Man Like Christian Grey Really Change?
In the end, Anastasia liberates him from this and brings him to true love. She is the hero."
Although the relationship begins with him affirming, “I do not do the girlfriend thing” and insisting he is a dominant looking for a submissive, many readers believe Christian Grey changes his tune by books two and three. Anastasia says she wants “more” and desires “hearts and flowers” and he says he will “try” to deliver — and many readers think he does change to become more communicative, compromising, and caring of her needs.
But the OSU researchers seem to think that millions of women have sipped of the Fifty Shades of Grey Kool-Aid. They should never trust a guy like Mr. Grey.
“Even if Christian did ‘try to change’ to ‘give her more,’ his actions are consistently abusive — including stalking Anastasia, intimidating her, isolating her from friends and family, and humiliating her,” said Bonomi. “And I raise the question—Did Christian try to change? Or did he manipulate Anastasia into thinking he was trying to change, as abusers in the 'real world' do
We cannot continue to mistake infatuation for romance, or obsession for love.
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