I hate when men call women crazy. I hate when women call other women crazy. First, if we were suffering from mental illnesses, the term “crazy” would be insensitive. As we’re not, it’s just wrong.
It’s a way of saying: You have emotions and that scares me. You’re acting in a way that I cannot control, which makes me uncomfortable, so I’m just going to dismiss you by calling you crazy.
Crazy is so convenient. When you break up with someone, you don’t have to go into the nuanced complexities of the relationship. Nah, just say she’s crazy.
In my conversations with men, they never call their current girlfriends or love interests crazy. It's always the woman who gets this title after things turn sour.
Sometimes women turn into complete lunatics when dealing with the wrong guy, and there was always a common denominator in all of their situations.
All we want is for men to actually listen when we talk and to make an effort to please us.
Women may talk a lot, but none of our words are fruitless. There is truly a message behind our madness.
"Crazy" is defined as senseless, impractical and completely unsound actions — and that does not describe our outbursts.
The Five Deadly Words
There are certain words that are applied to women specifically in order to manipulate them into compliance: “Slut”, “Bitch”, “Ugly/Fat” and of course, “Crazy”. These words encapsulate what society defines as the worst possible things a woman can be. Slut-shaming is used to coerce women into restricting their own sexuality into a pre-approved vision of feminine modesty and restraint. “Bitch” is used against women who might be seen as being too aggressive or assertive… acting, in other words, like a man might. “Ugly” or “Fat” are used – frequently interchangeably – to remind them that their core worth is based on a specific definition of beauty, and to deviate from it is to devalue not only oneself but to render her accomplishments or concerns as invalid.
“Crazy” may well be the most insidious one of the four because it encompasses so much. At its base, calling women “crazy” is a way of waving away any behavior that men might find undesirable while simultaneously absolving those same men from responsibility. Why did you break up with her? Well, she was crazy. Said something a woman might find offensive? Stop being so sensitive.
Women are not crazy. I'm not in denial or defending absurd actions. I just think there's a more accurate word.
"Annoyed" is fitting. "Peeved" is even better. Crazy, though? Absolutely not.