Given one wish in life, most people would wish to be loved--to be able to reveal themselves entirely to another human being and be embraced by that acceptance. People who have successfully built an intimate relationship know its power and comfort. But they also know that taking the emotional risks that allow intimacy aren't easy. Built upon the sharing of feelings, intimacy requires consummate trust (Avery, 1989).
Many people believe that the No. 1 secret to maintaining a healthy relationship is having good communication skills. If you're in an intimate relationship or even a friendship and feel that you could improve in this area, here are some ways to keep the communication — and the relationship — flowing.
Conflict in a relationship is virtually inevitable. In itself, conflict isn’t a problem; how it’s handled, however, can bring people together or tear them apart. Poor communication skills, disagreements and misunderstandings can be a source of anger and distance, or a springboard to a stronger relationship and happier future. Next time you’re dealing with conflict, keep these tips on effective communication skills in mind and you can create a more positive outcome.
The ability to tell each other thoughts, feelings and wants is so important to a relationship. Good, open, and honest communication is important
There are no mind readers. For any relationship to grow and prosper, likes, dislikes, desires, hopes, dreams and problems need to be said. If a couple’s communication restricted or even a friendship communication is restricted, the relationship is destined for major problems down the road.
- The goal of effective communication skills should be mutual understanding and finding a solution that pleases both parties, not ‘winning’ the argument or ‘being right’.
- This doesn’t work all the time, but sometimes (if you’re having a conflict in a romantic relationship) it helps to hold hands or stay physically connected as you talk. This can remind you that you still care about each other and generally support one another.
Keep in mind that it’s important to remain respectful of the other person, even if you don’t like their actions